I'm getting the same thing. I went through the entire rescue, got to the ladder, and when I got into the abandoned carriage house, my husband was waiting for me but the kid was in the corner.... just swinging her arms.
My husband was giving m gifts and saying how much he loved me and no matter what I did, the kid wouldn't move.
I did this six different times. Might I mention, I never had to ask her to follow...she just did.
Well, on my last try, I decided "okay, go through it. when you get to the ladder, ask her to follow you." well, she followed all right.... right back into the corner. The most response I got was a gasp when I pulled out my crossbow and tried to shoot her in the head. Ofcouse saftey was still on. This time, my spouse wasn't waiting for me.
I don't know what to do. It's really really pissing me off.
Edit: Might I also mention that the game returns me to the bridge of Bowerstone Market... not to my husband who is at the farm place. The same place where the 'Blind Date' quest was at. I bought it and married one of the guys there. Anywhoo... like I said it takes me to bowerstone market and not back to my husband. But the trail is still there to go to the cave.
I found a post saying to manually go to the cave and not port there then have the kid follow you on their own. I'm going to try it and I'll let you know how it goes.
EDIT: Well, the husband showed up. And he crouched down to the child and said "Ah, I've missed you." But she is still zombie like. I think I am going to try again and when she follows me on her own, at the end I'm going to try to dismiss her. I don't know if it will work as it is automatic follow but I'm going to give it a try. If it doesn't then I'm going to forget about the quest I suppose.... unless anyone else has ideas.
Edit: When respawning the quest, it put me right back at the door of the cave. The one in the abandoned carriage place... so I think I did that part right by manually following. Let's see if I can make it work. Edit: Okay I've got the kid. Let's hope this works. It's faster going through the latch door, I think. Less hobbes, oddly.
Edit: It didn't work. I was just thinking maybe if I had her follow me and then dismissed her at the end.... I'm determined even if I am sick of this quest. x.x My husband was still waiting.
EDIT: ....... Need I even say anything? I don't see how anyone is getting around this quest... My husband wants to give me a gift... perhaps if I go see him first and get the gift, he will automatically get the child? I don't know. Worth a shot. Here it goes.... u.u
Edit: I feel silly..... After going to see my husband I realize that it is a different husband and the husband I need was never waiting. I just went to him to get the letter again.